No one goes into a marriage expecting divorce; divorce, however, is a process that tests people and their limits, and it’s difficult to navigate with a calm head. If you find yourself going down this road, do yourself two favors: hire an attorney and avoid these three common pitfalls.
1. Hiding Finances
This isn’t just one of the most common mistakes; it’s one of the most costly. Whether you are trying to hang on to your investments and assets, lying about any financial situation is a crime. Each state has different specific penalties, but fines and jail time are common. You might be tempted to think that you only have to keep things quiet until the divorce is finalized and then you’ll be ok; this is one of the few conditions that enables a judge to reopen a divorce and reallocate money and goods. Don’t hide your finances; instead, trust your lawyer to protect your interest through legal means.
2. Resisting Compromise
Let’s state the simple fact: divorce is messy. It’s extremely rare that things will go entirely your way unless your spouse makes significant mistakes in the process. Embracing compromise is the best way to diffuse tensions and make the process less miserable; it can also entice cooperation from the other side, letting you get what matters most out of your divorce.
3. Involving a New Partner
Infidelity is one of the most common reasons to get a divorce; maybe you found the true love of your life post marriage...that’s ok! If the new relationship is really so important to you, then it’s worth a little wait. Being patient throughout this process, regardless of your new relationship, is going to be your best bet. Involving a new partner in any discussions or meetings is an easy way to inflate emotions. If you want to avoid making a divorce more complicated than it already is, do not involve other partners.
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